Do the Clothes I Wear Have an Effect in My Communication with Others? Day 422

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I listened to an eqafe interview on assessing ourselves within our daily decisions, one they mentioned and it fits within the topic I am currently writing about within communication, and it is who am I in relation to the clothes I wear and how does it effect me with communication with others? Clothes I have found are a huge contributing factor in the way I experience myself each day and how I will approach others in going to communicate with them, I do notice that I am interested in the way the colors look on me and if I see I look ok then I will experience myself as ok. If I see that something doesn’t suit me, then I will go into an experience of judging myself energetically as I see the feeling within me goes sour. This I have attached to this over all perceived belief within myself that I am not worthy or in some way missing something, and so when I see something I wear that doesn’t please my eye right away, then I will go into this energetic experience of low, validating my belief about myself that I am less then and not as good as those who would look good in such clothing that I am not wearing well. So I am setting myself up within my reality to be doomed so to speak as I am seeking perfection in this instance within the clothes I pick out, but realizing that not all the clothes I try on will suit me and fit properly as the clothes are made for all shapes and sizes. The clothes I wear do not define me as a human being, it is simply just cloth that covers my body for warmth and protection. This may seem quite non-relevant, but within the experiences of myself within the way I feel or judge myself in certain specific clothes is showing there is a problem as I am defining myself not by how I live in each moment, but on what I look like and how I will be perceived. 

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to judge myself based on the way I feel in the clothes energetically as an excitement and/or a depression because of a judgment I made in relation to the picture I saw in the mirror.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to judge myself based on the picture I see in the mirror and so accept the energy as who I am within these moments.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to question energy absolutely within me and never question it’s reality and who I am within it and why I am doing this in the way I am as diminishing myself and/or exalting myself about others.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to seek attention from others through positive remarks and compliments I may get within the clothes I wear.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to then fear getting negative remarks from others and feeling the energetics of negative emotions.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to define who I am by external people and within as energy reactions to the external, I see and realize that this is disempowering self as I am only in a state of reaction and seeking, rather then directing myself in focus and stability in what is best for all and self.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to define myself and how others will treat me based on the clothes I wear.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that I am defined and determined within my reality by the way I experience myself in my clothes and so go into future projection scenarios on how others will perceive me.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to go into future projections about my clothes and what I am wearing based on how I think others will perceive me and judge me in a negative or positive way based on this.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear being judged in a negative way by others.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to determine myself based on the fears of not being liked and accepted and base my decisions on these fears rather then what makes sense to be done in the moment practically.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that I have to look a specific way to be accepted by others.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to judge others for the way in which they look and perceive them in specific ways without first getting to know them and seeing who they are as a person.

When and as I see I am going into a point of fear and judgment towards myself or others when I am determining what clothes to wear, I stop and breath, and I realize that this will only compromise my effectiveness in communicating with others and so my effectiveness within living in a way that supports me and others because I am not here living within in reality, but distracted by fears and worries based on how others see me.

I commit myself to assess my clothing based on practical factors such as the activity I will be doing as well as the comfort level of myself within it physical.

I commit myself to look within me self honestly and assess who I am within the clothes I chose and I commit to ensure I make the decision based on my own self direction and so I commit myself to stop judging myself and others based on clothes and get to know who the being is and even why they chose the clothes they did.

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Day 153- Good Person Character – Self Corrective Statements

I commit myself to when I see the thought of ‘I am not being accepted by others’, I stop and breath, and realize that when I don’t allow this thought to direct me, I am not creating things out of thin air, instead I walk the physical dimension and continue to interact with the physical world not allowing this thought to direct me. When I find I go into the point of reclusion and tightness of the stomach, I realize I have accepted the thought and thus have to become more diligent in my application of stopping allowing the thoughts to influence me, and remain here as the breath.

I commit myself to stop the point of self victimization within this point of accepting the thought that I am being rejected, and thus stop the point of polarity that I am not as good as the other because they are rejecting me, realizing that these are all mind illusions and self sabotage manipulation to stay within this point of self diminishment. SO thus I stop the point of seeing others in a polarity and see others as physical beings one and equal to me, and walk the application of correction of stopping the separation with others and physical walking the equality of us through living it.

I commit myself to stop the point of comparison with another in so I can stop the point of polarity as by stopping participating in the thought of ‘I am being rejected’ and so walk the approach of having no expectation with others and being comfortable with self, so thus I will not have any motivation with others, but to hang out in equality and be with the person in comfortablity.

I commit myself to stop judging others movements and mannerism within who they are with me and thus be here as myself in whatever happens, practice the point of being here as what is here in full acceptance, and thus directing the point in practical solutions that make sense, stopping the mind dimensions of judgment and self sabotage.

I commit myself to stop assuming how others are thinking, and thus be here no matter what the point is within the other, so thus I am stable and able to support others in stability and clarity, ending the point of dependency on their reactions towards me.

I commit myself to stop the point of self sabotage through not allowing the good person character to become me through this point of not accepting myself and assuming that others are rejecting me, and thus be real here and not be dependent on personality to determine who I will be, but be able to be here in stability as self in my own skin.

I commit myself to stop the point of using characters to be seen as nice/good/liked, and thus walk the point of being real and thus birthing my own self expression in who I really am.

I commit myself to stop the manipulating others through fake faces, and become real here so we as life can be real here and stop existing within the mind as separate faces for separate occasions, be here stable as one face as our real face as equal with the face and body of equality, which is the physical.

I commit myself to walk who I am as real as changing myself in the physical, so thus I stop the point of using fake faces to make it easier for myself, and thus face all of who I am and start to walk the change to equality here in myself. 

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Day 152- “Good Person” Character – Physical Reactions – Self Forgiveness

Here looking at the physical reactions I experience that activate the ‘good person’ character, and so where I will submit to and thus accept myself to align with a certain specific way of being instead of here breathing as myself.




I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to when I am being seen within my mind as not accepted by others in my reality through a thought such as ‘I am being seen as unapproachable based on the way that person addressed me being cold’ I will physically react within my body as a tightness in my stomach and thus recluse myself, and from there in our interactions will see this person as the dominant one.




I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to when my body reacts within a tightness due to an assumed rejection from another as being cold, I will then see this person as more dominant then me and thus fall into a submissive role with them in interactions.




I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to go into a reaction of tightness within my stomach when I have assumed that another has rejected me due to how one approached me as not acceptable in my eyes and thus I follow the thought that ‘I am being seen as unapproachable based on the way that person addressed me as being cold’ and thus activate a polarity of comparison as than go into being inferior based on the assumption that I am not being accepted by this person.




I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to compare myself to another based on how I perceived the other within how they approached me as cold, and thus immediately went into the inferior stance as seeing myself as being rejected and thus less then.




I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to see myself as being rejected by another based on an assumption of their physical body movement and approach in a moment towards me as being cold when in fact I didn't know why they moved in such a way.




I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to thus through this assumption of being rejected and then the reaction of physical tightness in my body as a suppression, immediately go into the activation of the ‘good person’ character as this is the approach I will have on those that I see are not accepting me right away to thus win their acceptance as being good and/or likable.




I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to go into the ‘good person’ character when I find that I am not being accepted and use this character to have more of a chance of being accepted and seen as likable.




I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to manipulate others within this character of being a ‘good person’ so I can be accepted as within myself I have not accepted myself and thus will use this point to gain good feelings if I win the other over with this character activation as the ‘good person’ I will feel better about myself.




I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to compete with others to make myself feel better when I win in this exchange and thus be subject and enslaved to this point of how others will see me and react to me being a person I am not such as this ‘good person’ character.




Self Commitment Statements to follow.



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Day 150 – ‘I am a good person’ Fear Dimension

What I fear when becoming this character as the good person character is that I will not be liked and thus move into this character for others to have reason to like me, this not being genuine because it’s done out of fear of being alone.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to go into the good person character to have others see me as an easy going nice person, so I can be liked.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear not being seen as a good person as I within this will have to face who I am as my backchat and the points that I have kept hidden and secret because I don’t want others as well as myself to really see and understand who I am within it.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear facing the hidden points within me because I see these as difficult points and I desire to have an easy and enjoyable time, and within manipulating others with the good person character, I will be much more likely to experience this.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear facing the hidden part of myself and thus I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to use a false front as the good person character to not have to do what is necessary to be done which is face the shit within me and deal with it, and change to support all life.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to use the good person character to have people like me but within this not know who I am in stability because I am basing myself on others and thus will be moved by others reactions towards me.

I forgive my that I have accepted and allowed myself to desire others to like me so I always have a stable point to be at and be entertained with so thus using the good person character to win friends and be entertained, but within this I loss my self stability as I am compromising myself for my mind as good feelings.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not be unconditional within who I am with others and have a secret agenda to just fit in so I don’t have to feel negative feelings.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to have agendas when being with other to have them like me and so use the good person character to get them to like me and thus then I won’t have to feel bad.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear negative feelings and thus become addicted to the good feelings within the mind as is generated when my good person character is accepted and liked.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to compromise myself with the good person character in being in self interest to have my own desires met of feeling good and being entertained, while the world is going to hell and many are suffering, this is created based on the mind I am participating in through the feelings I am creating as real and living into them as if this is who I am, based in my own self happiness while others are suffering.

I commit myself to stop participating in the good character persona for others acceptance and approval so I can be able to walk as a point of stability here in real reality.

I commit myself to stop the fear of being alone and face what is here in whatever point is here, it is not relevant whether I am alone or not as I am never alone as there is countless beings always here, so I stop this point of seeing myself alone and embrace others as myself.

I commit myself to let go of the desire to be entertained with good feelings by letting go of this fake persona, as being a good person, and be real here and direct myself so I can be trusted with others and with myself as I am walking what I am talking.

I commit myself to stop self interest in wanting to be liked and seen as special by others by letting go of the desire to get attention and be more then others, through breathing, stopping the thoughts, and stopping each time the participation in these energy movements arise within.

I commit myself to push the point of being unconditional with myself and with others and stop the self judgment of myself so I can be here for real and accept what is here as it is, changing all points that don’t support life through and as myself first.

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Day 77 - The People Pleaser Character

I see at work that I go into this people pleaser character to try and either make another like me or make it easier for me.

I forgive myself for allowing and accepting myself to go into a inferiority towards others and thus desire to please them so I can be liked and seen as acceptable by these others as I am judging myself and seeing myself not as worthy as them. Within this I forgive myself for allowing and accepting myself to hold a judgment against myself that I am not as worthy to others and thus go into inferiority because I see myself as not as capable and thus have to do something to be able to be equal again with these people, thus I will go into the people pleasing character to build myself up within myself and give them a good experience with me so I can get the liking back in return. I realize and understand that within this way of living of separating myself from others and believing that I have to please others to be liked because I see myself as not as worthy as others is sabotaging myself as I have accepted myself as weak among life here and that I will not be able to stand equal but will fall as I see myself in judgment. I realize that I have to let go of the judgment of myself as weak and thus be here within the principles and reality of life that we are, not what we believe ourselves to be as that is ever changing and done based on delusions within thoughts as the mind as pictures and ideas, but be able to live in real life in the physical and become equal as the physical as what is matter is it is real here as the physical and base life on this simplistic truth as this is who I am here physical one and equal with all that exist.

I forgive myself for allowing and accepting myself to believe the thoughts that I am no good and unworthy and thus living into these thoughts, which will make them real. I realize that when I accept myself as these thoughts of unworthiness and no good I will live this out as I am responsible for me and create who I am, so thus the correction and what I commit myself to is to walk all thoughts that are separations from who I am here as life in self forgiveness to thus be able to purify myself and see the pattern and correct the pattern by walking it in my life and living the correction, so I am taking responsibility for myself and living the truth of myself, that I am equal and one and thus will live this in fact in the process to purification as self realization in self correction through self forgiving my faulty ways.

I forgive myself for allowing and accepting myself to see others 'strengths' within who they are in comparison to myself and thus judge myself based on compering who I am to them. I realize that within this comparison I am not in self honesty and thus only following my judgments and thus desires to be more. Thus I forgive myself for allowing and accepting myself to go into comparison towards others based on desiring the others strengths as I see and believe that I can not be that, thus go into jealousy towards the other and go into backchat as nastiness to try and make myself seem better because I feel less then based on holding onto this jealousy and comparison. I realize that I must stop the judgment of myself and others in polarities of weak strong and thus define people from this.

I commit to stop judging and comparing life and see life for what it is here in equilibrium where all are walking their process at different levels and all have different 'talents' in all different areas, thus I stop comparing myself to others and walk here within and as who I am as life as all others.

I forgive myself for allowing and accepting myself to go into jealousy and thus nasty back chat of diminishing others because I allowed this jealousy to take me over because I don't accept myself. I cause abuse within myself by judging life and thus diminish myself because I am the life I am diminishing within my back chat and being jealousy about. I am not limited within my expression in relative terms and neither is anyone else, thus I stop my separation through stopping my participation in jealousy and backchat, and accept myself as well as all others and appreciate others as I would want for me.

I commit myself to stop pleasing others through fear and seeing myself less then but live within reality in the physical and stand within the principles of what is best for all in equality and oneness and respect others as well as myself as equals nothing more nothing less.

I commit myself to stop judging myself as less then others and sabotaging myself with others and stand up and walk in the physical with and as others as equal. I don't accept myself to diminish myself thus I stop all judgments as they come in breath of myself and all life.

I commit myself to stop all backchat based on my desire to be like another and believing I cant.

I commit myself to stop jealousy towards others based on believing I can't have what others have thus stopping desire and expectations and living here and being free of wants and desires and expectations by stopping participation and realizing that I have always been here and am here in all-ways.

I commit myself to be humble and work with myself to thus walk self acceptance by stopping the thoughts, ideas, and judgments that I am not as worthy, and thus stopping this with all life and letting go of the desire to judge in each breath and standing here with life and living equal and one as how I would like for myself.




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