Secure - Redefinition Word Process - Day 503

Secure -

 
Definition - feeling safe, stable, and free from fear or anxiety.

Word play - See cure

So the way i have been living secure is where i am existing within a point of needing this, not ever feeling like i am secure and so not feeling safe or free in my environments. I have tainted my security within myself and my world based on following others in my reality, not seeing, realizing, and understanding that i am not leading myself but following the experience within me based on stimuli i have been triggered by through energy based on thoughts.
Solution: the solution that i am seeing is first stop following others and the experiences within me, and lead myself based on living principles. Living based on principles, living based on breath by breath living, living based on provisions or solutions for each scenario i go into to what and who i will be in those moments. 

So secure within myself is based on see the solution before hand as i am the leader of myself preparing the way before me so i can stand in these moments and not be swayed by energy but be secure within the steadfast of my resolve within the life principles i am living

Word list - Living Words Secure
secure
safe
free
sound
protect
whole
understood
self leader
assured
solutions
confident
immune
riskless
unharmed
certain
decided
sure
stable
stand
life
best for all
principled
living
complete
here
breath
commitment
discipline

Redefined Secure - is to see and so self lead self to the solution/cure in the moment through preparing beforehand the potential outflows and corrections needed to become secure in the understanding of what the situation calls for as it presents itself.

Flag-point for this - if i am feeling insecure - then i realize a process has to be walked in writing/self forgive/self correction - living solutions to be able to become secure in that scenario and stand as solutions as the moment comes.

 
Scenarios to Live this New Definition of Secure -
-When i am in the mirror judging any part of my appearance, as the solution i walk self forgiveness and self corrective statements until i no longer judge my appearance in the mirror and i am stable, how ever long this takes, i stand and walk.

-if i am in front of another and my mind starts to chatter thoughts that 'i am being judged' 'they don't like me' 'i am being seen as weak' 'i am weak' - i breath through these thoughts and live the solution that the other is defining and creating themselves, and in this moment i must take responsibility for myself in stopping these thoughts from directing me and living the solution which is living solutions that are best for all - the one solution is - all life is equal and one as this physical existence - no being is more or less - each being is unique in an individual expression within the physical body that exist here as and a part where each on e is a part of the physical planet.

-Each is capable and able to live to there highest potential and all within this physical existence has this potential within them. My responsibility in this moment is to live these principles of equality and oneness of the physical and live the word self responsibility to stop my thoughts through breath awareness and have the solution in place to see the life that is here in a 'new' way - a way of equality and oneness and so live the best that is able to be lived in these scenarios for myself and for all others that i can support.

-Care (creative action regarding expression) also has to be walked in the moments i am changing in my process from insecure to secure by living solutions through caring for myself as i fall and stand up again in the process of change that is being walk, and caring for my physical body with efficient food/sleep/breath awareness to remain stable in my reality and balanced within my day to day application.

--care for myself when i am not feeling ok, is to realize that i am ok, i am alive, i am breathing, i have support around me, i have all i need to live, and i have the opportunity to walk to my highest potential, and so within this realization, i am in a simplistic outlook of life where life becomes simple, it's not about the thoughts or the thinking, but about how i am in my self in a moment - this is all that really matters the self here in the breath and how I will live/create myself. Through this provision of making life simple, best for all, and walking the tools of self responsibility and self change, i am moving myself into a point of becoming secure as i understand where i stand and i am leading myself to stand within how i will be in moments of insecurity becoming the solution for myself and the environment that i am in within the principle of what is best for all.

-Memories - memories that come up that move me from here - my directive principle - i note them down and walk the self forgiveness and self correction to purify the memory and release the energy charge within it within a day or two of the event.

-conflict resolution - to be continued - i have walked releasing the energy real time through breath, and understanding the solution within the outflow that is playing out by taking responsibility for myself and the situation and using my resources to create a solution that is best for all. Learning and expanding as I confront conflict and practicing the responding in my ability to create solutions that will create stability within the environment once again.

--If the person is violent of causing harm to others or myself, leave the area and call for professional support like police.

-Aid to someone in need - put myself in there shoes and see how they are seeing things, through communication and asking questions to find the common ground between all involved to be able to agree on a way forward that will be best for all.

-walking with animals - enjoy the moment with an animal treating them as how i would like to be treated and supporting them in the best way i am able to so there survival is certain and the equality of life is respected.

-Walking with children - change any reactions immediately not allowing time to pass and waiting to ensue as the children are looking to me as a solution and example of how to live. They will be the future of our world, so teaching myself in all areas that are here to learn what is best by walking what makes sense in this physical reality through a correction process of self honesty and self responsibility. This to ensure all children as all adults live in dignity and respect through securing their life in the highest potential we can possible create here each and every breath.

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Do the Clothes I Wear Have an Effect in My Communication with Others? Day 422

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I listened to an eqafe interview on assessing ourselves within our daily decisions, one they mentioned and it fits within the topic I am currently writing about within communication, and it is who am I in relation to the clothes I wear and how does it effect me with communication with others? Clothes I have found are a huge contributing factor in the way I experience myself each day and how I will approach others in going to communicate with them, I do notice that I am interested in the way the colors look on me and if I see I look ok then I will experience myself as ok. If I see that something doesn’t suit me, then I will go into an experience of judging myself energetically as I see the feeling within me goes sour. This I have attached to this over all perceived belief within myself that I am not worthy or in some way missing something, and so when I see something I wear that doesn’t please my eye right away, then I will go into this energetic experience of low, validating my belief about myself that I am less then and not as good as those who would look good in such clothing that I am not wearing well. So I am setting myself up within my reality to be doomed so to speak as I am seeking perfection in this instance within the clothes I pick out, but realizing that not all the clothes I try on will suit me and fit properly as the clothes are made for all shapes and sizes. The clothes I wear do not define me as a human being, it is simply just cloth that covers my body for warmth and protection. This may seem quite non-relevant, but within the experiences of myself within the way I feel or judge myself in certain specific clothes is showing there is a problem as I am defining myself not by how I live in each moment, but on what I look like and how I will be perceived. 

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to judge myself based on the way I feel in the clothes energetically as an excitement and/or a depression because of a judgment I made in relation to the picture I saw in the mirror.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to judge myself based on the picture I see in the mirror and so accept the energy as who I am within these moments.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to question energy absolutely within me and never question it’s reality and who I am within it and why I am doing this in the way I am as diminishing myself and/or exalting myself about others.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to seek attention from others through positive remarks and compliments I may get within the clothes I wear.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to then fear getting negative remarks from others and feeling the energetics of negative emotions.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to define who I am by external people and within as energy reactions to the external, I see and realize that this is disempowering self as I am only in a state of reaction and seeking, rather then directing myself in focus and stability in what is best for all and self.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to define myself and how others will treat me based on the clothes I wear.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that I am defined and determined within my reality by the way I experience myself in my clothes and so go into future projection scenarios on how others will perceive me.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to go into future projections about my clothes and what I am wearing based on how I think others will perceive me and judge me in a negative or positive way based on this.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear being judged in a negative way by others.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to determine myself based on the fears of not being liked and accepted and base my decisions on these fears rather then what makes sense to be done in the moment practically.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that I have to look a specific way to be accepted by others.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to judge others for the way in which they look and perceive them in specific ways without first getting to know them and seeing who they are as a person.

When and as I see I am going into a point of fear and judgment towards myself or others when I am determining what clothes to wear, I stop and breath, and I realize that this will only compromise my effectiveness in communicating with others and so my effectiveness within living in a way that supports me and others because I am not here living within in reality, but distracted by fears and worries based on how others see me.

I commit myself to assess my clothing based on practical factors such as the activity I will be doing as well as the comfort level of myself within it physical.

I commit myself to look within me self honestly and assess who I am within the clothes I chose and I commit to ensure I make the decision based on my own self direction and so I commit myself to stop judging myself and others based on clothes and get to know who the being is and even why they chose the clothes they did.

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Life Support through Reacting to Another's Words - Day 410

Tonight I saw an interesting energy come up within me when my partner asked me if something I was about to do was best for all, I within myself went into an immediate reaction of defense and protection, and I lived it out by saying to him, why are you saying that to me, explain yourself? (with a fighting face on) This was done because within myself I reacted to the fact that I was not living what is best for all, I actually very rarely ask myself this question, I would like to think that I ask and so consider my actions within the alignment of what is best for all in an accumulation of the amount of years I have been in process as this is what process is about, but I have certainly not physically lived the amount of thoughts that I have thought about in relation to asking and never mind living what is best for all in physical reality. I have been living in my own desires and wants, I have been existing within self interest in many different areas of my life where I can see I can make changes, but I realize that though I have the intention to change, if I don’t actually change in physical reality, I will never actually change for real. So continuing in self interest is not the solution to do what I would like and so think about doing as it only caters to my wants/needs/desires, and so missing the rest of the world that is out there and creating me to be a person I don’t not see myself continuing to be.

So I want to explore and do self forgiveness and self correction statements on this specific reaction of being ‘caught’ red handed so to speak by another and how to see how to change the reaction from a resistance to an embracing of the words, and where can I learn and change myself to be more effective in my physical living to indeed live my life in the best way possible that will create a better world for all and so myself. I see and realize that there are many parts of myself and personalities playing out that I can’t in fact always see and understand, so when the opportunity comes up for support from another, I would like to rather embrace it, understand myself within it and learn from it, and find the solution that will support me to change to the person I would like to then live.

So, I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to create a point of defense towards another when I hear something within there words that is not in a positive or openly expressed supportive way towards me and so take it as a personal attack.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to determine who I am within the reactions I have in my mind/physical feelings as energy to the words said or actions done by another, where I realize, see, and understand that these reactions are NOT directed by myself in a self supportive way, but are created through automation and cause me to go into a point of ego where I will put up my guard and protect and defend, and so not hear/listen/am able to discuss the support that was be given by the other within the communication spoken in a moment.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to become afraid within myself when another points something out about me that is not going to make me look positive or in a way where I will be thought of in a high regard, and so I realize, see, and understand that this desire for positivity from others is creating and so holding this fear in place as within me I see and understand that I have many areas that require to be changed and lived in a new way that will support life/myself, I see often where I abuse and am in self interest so this support is definitely relevant.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to hold onto desires to be seen positively by others/my partner because within myself I see my flaws and imperfections and judge these as bad and unacceptable.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to create a fear of imperfections within me based on my judgment I hold that imperfections is a way of showing that one is less than others and less than the potential that one could be, I fear not being perfect.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to see imperfections as a judgment and create a relationship towards it that I can not be this and so create a fear of not ever being this.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to create a relationship towards imperfection as if it is something to be resisted and not accepted within myself.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to see imperfections as a flaw and so create a self diminishment and self abuse where I have sabotaged myself on a daily basis because I fear being imperfect and seen in this way.

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to see that imperfections are part of being within and as this process to create ourselves to be self perfected, the imperfections are actually gifts in the physical to show me how and where it is that I require to change, to specify my application, to find solutions to the reactions and resistances that I am creating and facing, and so walk a point of creating an acceptance to the imperfections that are here so they can be embraced, understood, and so changed within myself and my living in a way that will empower and support my self growth.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to judge points within the physical that in it’s manifestation has imperfections within it not realizing or understanding in these moments of judgments that there is an existential history behind each being in this existence, and that all are equal within life, so imperfection is a point of understanding this equality and so oneness that indeed exist and is herer and supporting the correction process when and as it becomes relevant for all that are here to indeed be able to live in a way that is best for all.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not hear or listen to others when they speak, but instantly follow my reactions and go into a defense towards them, and so miss the opportunity for support and so the opportunity for self growth and self understanding.

When and as I go into a point of compromising myself through following reactions when something is said to me that doesn’t create a positive feeling, I stop and breath, and realize by following the energy of reaction I will create a consequence of abuse and self compromise. I realize by breathing through the reaction and actually listening to the words being spoken and then bringing it back to myself, I see and understand this is the place where self change is born and the opportunity lives to build more of a real and intimate relationship with others as I embrace their words/them rather than reject and go into a corner by myself as an ego that will have no real power in the end anyway, so I realize it is not worth it.

I commit myself to when I am faced with this reaction of desiring to attack another, I stop and say ‘no I will not accept this reaction’, let it go, and then look within myself and find the support/solution that the other is showing me.

I commit to find out how I can learn to be better and become more embracing of others where I stop the rejection and become more a part of others lives.

I commit to push myself to discuss with others what they are seeing about me and unconditionally listen and hear what they are saying before I reply.

I commit myself to clear all reactions within me through self forgiveness with the other or with myself before I go into a discussion with another when I initially get offended or react in a protection mode.

I commit to realize that I am just reacting as a program as mind and energy and so I commit to let go of the program and allow myself to be vulnerable.

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The Importance of Communication with Others – Day 386

I have embarked on an agreement process with my partner where we are now living together for the first time, and we are walking through some structural foundational points to start as a base for our living and working together. This is supportive to start and walk such a point especially among partners or in a group so that there is a clear and open understanding that is known by all involved and all get the ability to discuss and come to an agreement on whatever comes up that needs direction. This agreement process is not only within creating a base foundation for work and living together, but also for many smaller even seemingly insignificant points that may come up. What I have found is that what is constantly occupying us is our patterns of behavior we have become accustomed to and always accepted to direct us, and so when an outside point comes in, the point of agreement is important to realign with the group or your partner. If undirected the habitual pattern of behavior may not be best for all or benefiting yourself or others, and so forms of backchat will occur or judgment of another or self has been made, and so this creates a point of discord and potential for misunderstanding and conflict within the group or in the partnership.

The cool thing within the agreement that my partner and I are walking is that we are basing it on principles that each of us have committed and dedicated ourselves to walk for ourselves and so as support for each other, and these principles are self honesty, self writing, self introspection, self forgiveness, and self correction in writing and then in our living. So these are not only principles but tools to help us walk from our mind patterned programs running automatically into the practical reality of our lives with each other and find ways to stop the misunderstandings and create understanding. This happens through communication.

Communication I have found has been one of the key factors to walk through points of conflict or reactions one of us had toward the other, and within the partnership agree to the point of unconditionally opening up the point and discussing it self honestly to find a solution to the conflict, and implement the solution into our lives together. This also sorts out misunderstandings, such as a point that I saw in my partner and assumed a specific thing which created a point of reaction in me towards him, and then once he saw the reaction in me as it was becoming obvious as I was with him, he asked what was up, and then in the moment we discussed the point, aligned it to what in fact is the reality of the situation through understanding each one’s point of view, and then coming to an agreement with how we are going to live it in our lives together or individually depending on the specifics of the point.

So it’s been extremely supportive I have found to not only have the principles of supporting each other as an equal to self, but communicating about all points that come up that cause any kind of reaction meaning assumption, judgment, emotion or feeling within self, and discussing it with the other so it does not accumulate to something bigger then it indeed has to be. It is essentially a point of prevention and efficiency in one’s living to prevent points from brewing out of control in the mind realms, which has been the way in human interactions, but changing to be aligned into physical living where both agree and discuss to a solution, and so enjoy the time we do have together rather then creating assumptions and animosity towards each other. I personally have had enough of the secret mind activity and blame/judgment towards another when that is really unacceptable, where I can take responsibility for myself, investigate the point within writing or with my partner in communication, and find solutions to whatever it is that I/we are facing. Communicating clears the air so to speak and makes life more enjoyable for all once solutions have been made through agreements of everyone involved; using the principle of what is best for all ensures an agreement will indeed be made and so all will benefit equally. If you are interested in more on agreements or the tools of self support, please check out the links below. Thanks for reading.

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Why are Words Important and What Do they Imply?– Day 327

Words, I have recently realized the importance of words within our lives and our living environments. We use words all the time, it’s how we communicate who we are and our expressions with others. I am currently on the desteni farm and words is very much emphasized within how we live them and speak them within our starting point of when we use them. Words have a directive principle within and as them that ripples within the receiver of the words and beyond that as the receiver will integrate the word and then from there it will travel from person to person through the process of communication and perception. Words though within how we speak them now are based on many energy charges such as the emotional or feeling connections we can put to words. For example, the word food, there is a point we can all define this word as within our own individual worlds, such as “food is so good”, “I enjoy exploring different versions of food”. Or another person can see food as a problem and have a negative relationship to food that creates a resistance to it. But within the purpose and meaning of the word food, it's direct physical purpose, it’s a point of giving the physical body nourishment to live.

So we don’t much look at our meanings to words and what attachments are connected to the words we use, which is quite strange because these words can cause so many problems, conflicts, and fights and do in our worlds. This happening when one person communicating to another person has different meanings, experiences, and associations attached to the word they use that will be different from what the other person receiving the words experience, associate and give meaning to, which will create a point of misunderstanding and misdirection within the two communicating for instance. This often can happen in relationship scenarios where the partners can often misinterpret the meaning of a word or hold a different definition to the place holder of the word in there mind that is different to the partner speaking, and because there is no communication between the two about re-defining words and making them a directive decision from both partners cooperation, their will be always miscommunication cause essentially the two of you from even one word are coming from two different worlds of meaning that will cause resistances and friction within the communication and thus the living of you two together.

So it’s interesting that we have not seen this simple solution within our world of creating universal meanings for words within which we live that are agreed upon, but this can be done starting within a partnership with another. It will take time, dedication, and much discussion to come to a direct agreeable meaning to a word, but there is a process being developed and can be applied within the Agreement Course and Desteni I Process courses that will be of great value for you if you see the importance of how words define who we are and direct our worlds.

There are methods developed through the courses mentioned above that redefine words to be established and created to be able to live the words here in reality in their direct practical purpose, and stop the past attachments and energy charges to the words we use within our world from directing us and controlling the way we feel about them. We use self forgiveness and self corrective statements to be able to clear these meanings within ourselves of the words we use, and walk the correction of the definition of the word in a practical sense that will be best for all.

Here is a blog series I did for more context on the process of redefining the word Loser:

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Words are not feelings nor emotional, but simply ways for us to communicate who we are to the world around us. There is a lot that will be able to be communicated with a lot more effectiveness if we use our words within a purpose of direct understanding of the meanings of things and cut out all the mind attachments that are really not necessary and create more friction then resolves it.

Living words to there direct relationship within a understood collective decision that will create the space for learning and expansion of ourselves as human beings and will be the correction process to see direct and live direct within reality and what is really happening in each moment. Living words breath by breath is the best form of living because you are not basing any point of your life or your living on assumption, past, future reference, or pictures and associations, but through living knowledge you have acquired through the direct relationship of what the word mean that all understand and can live by. It will create much more simplistic living and communication, and will give us much more time to start to build our world with a foundation of solidity because the words we use, which build the foundation for the world we will create is based on what is real and what is best for all through universal understanding and respect that all are able to understand what is being said.

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