The Inner Child Within Us All - Day 490

Here speaking with my partner on how he has supported me in accessing and embracing the inner child within myself, and how that has come through in my living. Also, there were many perspectives shared by all of us on how to live this inner child in our day to day lives to enjoy life more and make it more fruitful. Please have a listen and enjoy!

The Importance of Communication with Others – Day 386

I have embarked on an agreement process with my partner where we are now living together for the first time, and we are walking through some structural foundational points to start as a base for our living and working together. This is supportive to start and walk such a point especially among partners or in a group so that there is a clear and open understanding that is known by all involved and all get the ability to discuss and come to an agreement on whatever comes up that needs direction. This agreement process is not only within creating a base foundation for work and living together, but also for many smaller even seemingly insignificant points that may come up. What I have found is that what is constantly occupying us is our patterns of behavior we have become accustomed to and always accepted to direct us, and so when an outside point comes in, the point of agreement is important to realign with the group or your partner. If undirected the habitual pattern of behavior may not be best for all or benefiting yourself or others, and so forms of backchat will occur or judgment of another or self has been made, and so this creates a point of discord and potential for misunderstanding and conflict within the group or in the partnership.

The cool thing within the agreement that my partner and I are walking is that we are basing it on principles that each of us have committed and dedicated ourselves to walk for ourselves and so as support for each other, and these principles are self honesty, self writing, self introspection, self forgiveness, and self correction in writing and then in our living. So these are not only principles but tools to help us walk from our mind patterned programs running automatically into the practical reality of our lives with each other and find ways to stop the misunderstandings and create understanding. This happens through communication.

Communication I have found has been one of the key factors to walk through points of conflict or reactions one of us had toward the other, and within the partnership agree to the point of unconditionally opening up the point and discussing it self honestly to find a solution to the conflict, and implement the solution into our lives together. This also sorts out misunderstandings, such as a point that I saw in my partner and assumed a specific thing which created a point of reaction in me towards him, and then once he saw the reaction in me as it was becoming obvious as I was with him, he asked what was up, and then in the moment we discussed the point, aligned it to what in fact is the reality of the situation through understanding each one’s point of view, and then coming to an agreement with how we are going to live it in our lives together or individually depending on the specifics of the point.

So it’s been extremely supportive I have found to not only have the principles of supporting each other as an equal to self, but communicating about all points that come up that cause any kind of reaction meaning assumption, judgment, emotion or feeling within self, and discussing it with the other so it does not accumulate to something bigger then it indeed has to be. It is essentially a point of prevention and efficiency in one’s living to prevent points from brewing out of control in the mind realms, which has been the way in human interactions, but changing to be aligned into physical living where both agree and discuss to a solution, and so enjoy the time we do have together rather then creating assumptions and animosity towards each other. I personally have had enough of the secret mind activity and blame/judgment towards another when that is really unacceptable, where I can take responsibility for myself, investigate the point within writing or with my partner in communication, and find solutions to whatever it is that I/we are facing. Communicating clears the air so to speak and makes life more enjoyable for all once solutions have been made through agreements of everyone involved; using the principle of what is best for all ensures an agreement will indeed be made and so all will benefit equally. If you are interested in more on agreements or the tools of self support, please check out the links below. Thanks for reading.

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Am I a Caring Person? Sf and Scs – Day 381

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Am I a Caring Person? – Day 380

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to see myself as a caring person and desire to be caring but within myself only really desire to get this from others, the care and love.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to exist within a superficial way towards others in desiring care and love from them because within myself I see that I don’t deserve it or am able to give it to myself because I see myself as unworthy of real love and care which is self acceptance and self confidence.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to exist within a point of seeing myself unworthy of care and love and so seek it from others where I don’t have to face the point within myself that I see myself as inadequate.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed within myself to exist in a point of uncaring ways towards others in an attempt to make myself feel better or feel more empowered only to realize it only compromise who I can be in the physical.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to seek out others to ensure I have what I need instead of giving it to myself.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to create a fear to be alone and not get care and love, and so I will create superficial relationships with others based on fear of being alone.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear being alone instead of existing here within and as myself in realizing that I am always here and never in fact alone.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed the physical experience of sadness exist within me as a depression heaviness if I am rejected or others don’t give me the care and love I desire and expect.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to seek revenge  from others if they don’t give me what I expect within the way they treat me.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed desires of  feelings of goodness and care to exist within me as energy feelings rather then becoming real care within who I am being within my physical actions towards others.

When and as I see I am going into a point of existing for a feeling of being cared or loved, I stop and breath, and realize that I am compromising who I can be in the physical in my actions in self awareness but rather limit me to others and the desires for energy which never lasts.

I commit myself to move through the desires for feelings of energy to feel love and care.

I commit to physically move myself in my living to act in care and loving ways as I would like for myself in treating others as how I would like to be treated.

I commit to move through the desire to gain something from others instead of giving as how I would like to receive as physical participation with others in reality.

I commit to stop the fear of living and simply live here and direct myself into alignment with self perfection in my living.

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Am I a Caring Person? – Day 380

Tonight I listened to a Reptilian interview on this question and I found it quite eye opening because I always wanted to be caring, but it’s this point of am I truly a caring person, do I care for my fellow beings, or am I really only interested in my own mind? I would say on a superficial level I care about others because most of the time I am in such a state within my mind, thinking, fearing, paying attention to myself, others, and analyzing things, that for most of my day I am distracted and preoccupied and so can't spend the time necessary to really get involved with others and truly give my care absolute. I am not for real here most of the day, at times things will happen that bring me here like a person asking me a question or calling my name, but for most of my day I am in my head considering myself only. I am also cycling through another realted point where others care for me, they love me, and they provided me with happy things and support, and so I do the same for others. But within this is this really care, am I truly giving of myself unconditionally, free of motives and reactions to the people that I most care about ?

That I can say no, there is always a condition, a condition that I will get this care back, I will get the nice fuzzy good feelings just how I gave them out, so it’s never really about the other, but it’s about ensuring in the future I will have my security and feelings of goodness within the relationships I build with others. This because I am afraid to stand alone, stand on my own, and become free of energy, living from what is here, and directing what is here in full self trust and awareness, which is where the true freedom is and where true care can exist within that is not based on conditions. So care for another has only existed within a point of self interest for me, not based on a giving of myself to another part of myself in the best interest of the well being and standing with them into eternity, but given within fear to not lose my security and my feelings of happiness and positivity and so I can be protected.

Limiting myself from moving beyond the boundaries of fear, of conditions of living that create conflict and separation, and not living in the expression of myself in each moment irrespective of fearing what will happen or what people will thing, just existing here and directing within the common sense of what is here in each moment that is my care for myself and others. This is the living I would like to exist within and the care I would like to give, beyond the mind, beyond conditions, but here in the moment of expression, direct, specific, and immediate in what is best for the other as how I would treat and care for myself.

Sf and scs to follow, thanks for reading.