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Monday, January 4, 2016

When No Means No - Day 492

When I currently say no there is a lack of full trust within this because I have fallen in the past and not stuck with my no. There is a point of learning and correcting one’s mistakes within the process of coming to a final 'no, I stop', so this realization of the point of falling and getting back up again is actually part of process. The self trust redefinition I have made of living in a self trust that I will change myself in self honesty to do what is best for all until it is done, this I trust in my self. This can come into play here realizing that I will make the effort to change myself when I see I am not acting in a way that is best for all and in self honesty, I will not give up on myself as the change.

Though here in this blog, I am speaking to the 'no' beyond the falling and getting back up process, it’s a 'No' where it states enough is enough, no I am not going to accept this anymore.

Here I see the focus on the tangible problems in the world like animals dying, children dying, war as a supportive focus point to imprint the push that will be necessary to move into that stand of No, I stop, I can do this, I stop here now.

So the two points I am focusing on to practice this 'No- I stop stand' is the self judgment of my face – where whenever I go into a form of judging myself or my face in any way whatsoever, I say inside myself or out loud “NO! I am not allowing this compromise any longer’ I stop!” I move into the play/fun expression to move me through the energy, become physical. I can use whistling to move in the physical to support to walk through this point or some other fun point that comes up.

The second point is when I see my mood changes with my partner – I go ‘no, I stop now, I am not going to compromise our relationship’ and within that find the correction/solution and live it immediately. This so I start moving beyond the current playout patterns that are occurring and get access to more opportunities of change to live my words and do what is best.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to give myself back doors in the saying of no where I will not actually live the correction of no but fall into it because it is easy and comfortable.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to go into no based on the desire of seeing myself as less then rather then seeing myself as capable to move myself in the physical step by step in what is best for all.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to go into a fear of actually moving into my potential because then I will be forced to live there by principle to stand within what is best and life.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to create an idea of what my potential will look like and so fear that which I have in my mind.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to create my highest potential to be something that is too out there and hard to reach that I have believed it to be impossible.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to go into a form of apathy due to the belief that living my highest potetniaal is too hard when in reality I see, realize, and understand it is in each here moment that this can be lived, it’s not a end goal but it is here in each moment.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to make no another point of the ‘no but I its ok this time because I will eventually stop this someday’.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fall deliberately into the compromise of myself in my actions by not living to my highest potential in each moment but rather thoughts and energy overwhelm me and fall into them as I am addicted.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to go into a addictive mentality within the the word ‘no’ where I have placed a belief that it is not actually going to be done.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to postpone my life potential based on giving into the addictive thoughts of my mind when I say no to a pattern that is compromising and continue it.

I commit myself to stop the postponing of my change into my potential in each moment by living my words and standing within the integrity of doing what I say I will.

I commit myself to live the word ‘no’ as a final statement of what I will allow and what I will not and so say ‘no’ in these instance when I am ready to completely stop a point and stand as the solution for myself and then for others.

I commit myself to stop the fear of self change through taking it moment to moment and moving in breath awareness to get into the rhythm of living here and doing what is best in each breath.

I commit to practice this point of absolute no with the two examples I have shared and continue with other patterns once I have lived this in the physical.

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Tuesday, April 7, 2015

Business Fears: Fear of Approaching People - Day 455

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Previous Business Fear Blogs I have done in this Series:
Business Fears – Fear of Not Making the Sale – Day 444
Business Fears- Fear of Failure – Day 443
Business Fears: Fear of Not Showing Up - Day 446

Continuing on with the fears that come up as I enter the business world and within starting a business as a saleswomen. This fear of approaching people is one that has a lot of emotional energy involved within it due to the fact that this fear has been with me for a long time. What is driving this fear is the unknown factor that is existent within the very action of having to approach people and introduce them to what I am offering, this is a self initiative that I have to embody and self direct if I indeed want to sell them. This emotional experience I realize is based on over time allowing this fear and the thoughts that go with this fear to accumulate and not actually move myself enough to counter act the fear by approaching people and talk to them on a consistent basis.

I realize however that through action this fear will be transcended because I already see that I am able to go up and speak to strangers as anyone is by simply walking the physical steps and moving my mouth and speaking. The capabilities are there, I just have to move through this emotional energy as fear that I am allowing to hold me back and stay in a state of stagnation.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that within myself I am existing as someone who is not good enough to approach other people and show them what I have to offer.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to become stifled with thoughts of how good others look and act when they approach others and how I am not able to do it as good.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to judge myself compared to others in a moment when I see, realize, and understood that those other people did not just become this great speaker/seller in this moment, they too walked a process, went through trial and errors, and persevered to be where they are.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to delude myself in believing that I am and should just know how to speak to people and show them what I have to offer in an instant and automatically, not seeing, realizing, and understanding that it’ll take effort, consistency, and perseverance to see my actions reap the benefits of what I have put in.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to desire my business to be a success without having to work for it.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to become deluded within desires in alternate realities in my mind of just becoming a success that are not reality based because I am not walking the steps to create this and so instead creatinig disillusionment and missed opportunities.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to allow the fear of approaching strangers direct me into a stagnation.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear strangers rejecting me and so me having to face rejection.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to be stifled by the fear of rejection instead of realizing it is part of business and life and so it’s something to be embraced and learned from.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to miss opportunities here because of fear.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear moving myself because of fear itself.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe the existence of fear is real and that it can make me not move.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to wallow in fear and so stagnation instead of making actions in the physical to accumulate my business and do what needs to be done to be successful.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to judge myself for the falls and not realize, see, and understand it’s not what happens to me but who I am within what is happening.

When and as I see I am going into a point of fearing approaching strangers, I breath and stop, and realize that this fear is irrational as it’s not actually real, I see, realize, and understand I am able to move forward, I am able to get myself in front of others, and I am able to walk the process to move my business forward by walking the actions necessary to become more skilled and more experienced within selling what my business has to offer.

I commit myself to breath through the fear of approaching people and move myself to do so when this fear occurs using scripts to ease the approach and find ways to get others interested in what I have to say and offer them by being creative and going for it without fear.

I commit myself to stop the fear and focus on the bigger goals I have to why I am walking this business and for what purpose in helping others become more independent and empowered within themselves.

I commit myself to find all ways that I am able to make a success of myself as a business women and a human being on this planet in ways that will be best for all life.

I commit myself to do what ever is necessary to ensure I am successful and moving myself everyday in physical reality with physical actions to ensure I give myself the path to walk the process of making a success of my business.

I commit myself to create success within myself as my business and life through perseverance and dedication to what is best for all through all that I do.

Thursday, January 8, 2015

Business Fears – Fear of Not Making the Sale – Day 444

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So here I am looking at a fear of not making a sale due to the fact that I have yet to make a sale in my business venture that I am walking. This fear is more due to a future projection because when I look at this fear it’s based on the fact that I am uncertain of what making a sale will look like or be like. I have yet to do a presentation for people, so I am new and fresh at becoming a sales women. I within myself want to go into judgment and strife about what I haven’t done yet and what others are doing that I am not, and go into the fear of never making the sale.

Though this is, if I look at it realistically and within reason, not supportive and not measuring the facts of what is here, that I am new to this business and will have to walk the steps to accumulate the creation of selling my product through testing points and adjusting myself as I progress. So I have to walk the talk so to speak and this is where I find lies the true nature of this fear, fearing that I will not walk the steps necessary to ensure I give my business and myself every potential opportunity I am able to to in fact make the sale and become successful.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear not making a sale within the business that I am walking.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to create a future projection of making a sale or not within walking the business plan that I have committed myself to walk and execute.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear the potential of facing new people and new faces and being rejected within them in harsh or deliberate ways.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear facing rejection when I am putting myself out in front of others to make a decision of acceptance or rejection. I realize, see, and understand that within this decision rejection is an option that will likely come up often and that I am not defined by this decision, but by who I am within the action each and every moment I walk my business regardless of what I face or who I face.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to be defined by rejection as if this defines who I am as a being and see, realize, and understand that it is a fact of the business and life based on the practical consideration of other beings and if it is necessary or not to have this product in their life (though it is lol necessary for all to have this product in their lives).

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear rejection instead of seeing, realizing, and understanding that it holds a gift and opportunity to grow within understanding myself in the product I am selling and understanding from other’s perspective information that otherwise I would not have been privy to about myself within selling the product to them.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to see rejection within not making a sale as a negative point within myself such as I failed instead of seeing, realizing, and understanding it is a key to understanding how to become successful.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to become emotionally driven based on rejection instead of seeing and understanding and realizing that it really is as a point of reference to where the product or myself require consideration within an adjustment or correction within what is being lived at that time and how I am selling myself as the product.

When and as I see I am going into a point of fearing rejection and fearing not making a sale, I stop and breath, and realize that I am going into emotion instead of breathing and grounding myself into reality in the facts that there is something within myself that is needing to be looked at and considered more close for adjustment or correction if this point of rejection is coming up in this moment. I realize rejection is not personal nor defining who I am and so I commit myself to use it as a gift to understand myself better and so become a better saleswomen.

I commit myself to let go of the attachment of failure as negative emotional energy to being rejected through breathing and standing by myself through moving forward.

I commit myself to find the gift within the rejection by understanding what needs to be consider to make myself better.

I commit myself to walk the steps to improve and correct myself within what I see and other’s see through rejection that is not working so to speak.

I commit myself to walk the talk and push myself to expand myself each and every time rejection occurs.

I commit myself to not take rejection personal and see it as a gift to reach success and part of the process to in fact become a success as who I am within what I do.

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