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Tuesday, April 7, 2015

Business Fears: Fear of Approaching People - Day 455

Previous Business Fear Blogs I have done in this Series:
Business Fears – Fear of Not Making the Sale – Day 444
Business Fears- Fear of Failure – Day 443
Business Fears: Fear of Not Showing Up - Day 446

Continuing on with the fears that come up as I enter the business world and within starting a business as a saleswomen. This fear of approaching people is one that has a lot of emotional energy involved within it due to the fact that this fear has been with me for a long time. What is driving this fear is the unknown factor that is existent within the very action of having to approach people and introduce them to what I am offering, this is a self initiative that I have to embody and self direct if I indeed want to sell them. This emotional experience I realize is based on over time allowing this fear and the thoughts that go with this fear to accumulate and not actually move myself enough to counter act the fear by approaching people and talk to them on a consistent basis.

I realize however that through action this fear will be transcended because I already see that I am able to go up and speak to strangers as anyone is by simply walking the physical steps and moving my mouth and speaking. The capabilities are there, I just have to move through this emotional energy as fear that I am allowing to hold me back and stay in a state of stagnation.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that within myself I am existing as someone who is not good enough to approach other people and show them what I have to offer.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to become stifled with thoughts of how good others look and act when they approach others and how I am not able to do it as good.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to judge myself compared to others in a moment when I see, realize, and understood that those other people did not just become this great speaker/seller in this moment, they too walked a process, went through trial and errors, and persevered to be where they are.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to delude myself in believing that I am and should just know how to speak to people and show them what I have to offer in an instant and automatically, not seeing, realizing, and understanding that it’ll take effort, consistency, and perseverance to see my actions reap the benefits of what I have put in.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to desire my business to be a success without having to work for it.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to become deluded within desires in alternate realities in my mind of just becoming a success that are not reality based because I am not walking the steps to create this and so instead creatinig disillusionment and missed opportunities.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to allow the fear of approaching strangers direct me into a stagnation.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear strangers rejecting me and so me having to face rejection.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to be stifled by the fear of rejection instead of realizing it is part of business and life and so it’s something to be embraced and learned from.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to miss opportunities here because of fear.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear moving myself because of fear itself.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe the existence of fear is real and that it can make me not move.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to wallow in fear and so stagnation instead of making actions in the physical to accumulate my business and do what needs to be done to be successful.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to judge myself for the falls and not realize, see, and understand it’s not what happens to me but who I am within what is happening.

When and as I see I am going into a point of fearing approaching strangers, I breath and stop, and realize that this fear is irrational as it’s not actually real, I see, realize, and understand I am able to move forward, I am able to get myself in front of others, and I am able to walk the process to move my business forward by walking the actions necessary to become more skilled and more experienced within selling what my business has to offer.

I commit myself to breath through the fear of approaching people and move myself to do so when this fear occurs using scripts to ease the approach and find ways to get others interested in what I have to say and offer them by being creative and going for it without fear.

I commit myself to stop the fear and focus on the bigger goals I have to why I am walking this business and for what purpose in helping others become more independent and empowered within themselves.

I commit myself to find all ways that I am able to make a success of myself as a business women and a human being on this planet in ways that will be best for all life.

I commit myself to do what ever is necessary to ensure I am successful and moving myself everyday in physical reality with physical actions to ensure I give myself the path to walk the process of making a success of my business.

I commit myself to create success within myself as my business and life through perseverance and dedication to what is best for all through all that I do.

Thursday, January 8, 2015

Business Fears – Fear of Not Making the Sale – Day 444

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So here I am looking at a fear of not making a sale due to the fact that I have yet to make a sale in my business venture that I am walking. This fear is more due to a future projection because when I look at this fear it’s based on the fact that I am uncertain of what making a sale will look like or be like. I have yet to do a presentation for people, so I am new and fresh at becoming a sales women. I within myself want to go into judgment and strife about what I haven’t done yet and what others are doing that I am not, and go into the fear of never making the sale.

Though this is, if I look at it realistically and within reason, not supportive and not measuring the facts of what is here, that I am new to this business and will have to walk the steps to accumulate the creation of selling my product through testing points and adjusting myself as I progress. So I have to walk the talk so to speak and this is where I find lies the true nature of this fear, fearing that I will not walk the steps necessary to ensure I give my business and myself every potential opportunity I am able to to in fact make the sale and become successful.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear not making a sale within the business that I am walking.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to create a future projection of making a sale or not within walking the business plan that I have committed myself to walk and execute.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear the potential of facing new people and new faces and being rejected within them in harsh or deliberate ways.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear facing rejection when I am putting myself out in front of others to make a decision of acceptance or rejection. I realize, see, and understand that within this decision rejection is an option that will likely come up often and that I am not defined by this decision, but by who I am within the action each and every moment I walk my business regardless of what I face or who I face.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to be defined by rejection as if this defines who I am as a being and see, realize, and understand that it is a fact of the business and life based on the practical consideration of other beings and if it is necessary or not to have this product in their life (though it is lol necessary for all to have this product in their lives).

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear rejection instead of seeing, realizing, and understanding that it holds a gift and opportunity to grow within understanding myself in the product I am selling and understanding from other’s perspective information that otherwise I would not have been privy to about myself within selling the product to them.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to see rejection within not making a sale as a negative point within myself such as I failed instead of seeing, realizing, and understanding it is a key to understanding how to become successful.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to become emotionally driven based on rejection instead of seeing and understanding and realizing that it really is as a point of reference to where the product or myself require consideration within an adjustment or correction within what is being lived at that time and how I am selling myself as the product.

When and as I see I am going into a point of fearing rejection and fearing not making a sale, I stop and breath, and realize that I am going into emotion instead of breathing and grounding myself into reality in the facts that there is something within myself that is needing to be looked at and considered more close for adjustment or correction if this point of rejection is coming up in this moment. I realize rejection is not personal nor defining who I am and so I commit myself to use it as a gift to understand myself better and so become a better saleswomen.

I commit myself to let go of the attachment of failure as negative emotional energy to being rejected through breathing and standing by myself through moving forward.

I commit myself to find the gift within the rejection by understanding what needs to be consider to make myself better.

I commit myself to walk the steps to improve and correct myself within what I see and other’s see through rejection that is not working so to speak.

I commit myself to walk the talk and push myself to expand myself each and every time rejection occurs.

I commit myself to not take rejection personal and see it as a gift to reach success and part of the process to in fact become a success as who I am within what I do.

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Sunday, October 26, 2014

Moving Beyond Limitations – Talking to Strangers - Day 432

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So this past week I was in a situation where I was forced to push through my limitations, this for all intense and purposes is a very cool experience and one I welcome as it births growth of self. This experience I was having to directly speak to people I had never seen or spoken to before about a business venture that I am currently pursuing. For me speaking to people face to face has always been something I avoided especially people I did not know. I experience within myself anxiety, fears, and also memories of being embarrassed in the past of moments where it didn’t go as expected. So as I approached this event, my mind started to bring up these very familiar emotions along with the thoughts and memories of failure and dread and what ifs, so this all comes up as the event draws closer. In the past, I would always find distractions or simply would not put myself out there because at that time I had no tools to support me to move beyond these very intense and uncomfortable emotional experiences going on inside of me, I just allowed these thoughts and emotions to overwhelm me. When I did face these situations of having to speak and direct conversations into a specific way, I would get overwhelmed and allow the experience to overwhelm me and perform less then ideally, where I would never go beyond my limitations, but inevitably compromise my true potential.

Here I will start with self forgiveness and self correction statements on some points that came up through the two day event that I say was part of this ‘self-compromise’ character I go into, so I can find the ways where I can support myself in those moments, and change to be the best potential I can be. Because why not? I realize that there is no one stopping me, but myself, and I have the drive to succeed and become the true potential that I am capable of.

There was one moment where a person compared me to my partner and not in words, but in my interpretation of what he was saying. I interpreted it as him saying that I was not worth being teamed up with because I was not doing well within my sales pitch. Now, this is the way in which I interpreted his words, his gestures, his physical presence, and many other subtle factors, but this is not in fact what actually was going on as I don’t know what he meant by his words. I never asked directly to know and I also never introspected the moment to see where I compromised myself or sabotaged myself. As it’s important to remember and focus on for myself when pushing through limitations is that no one outside of you can define you and/or has power over you, you are the direct principle within yourself, and so any point that doesn’t go well or you preform less then ideal, you can remediate this through writing for instance, and find the correction to walk in future moments with. This for me is key to understand and implement into my living, as I would have used this moment of interpretation to sabotage myself and not approach others due to fear of the same experience happening again. This I did not do, but before I go there I will walk the self forgiveness and self correction to this point.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to create a belief about myself through another persons gestures, communication style, eye movements, and judgments I have made that I am being seen as not as important or good as another person I am working with and so judge myself as less then others.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to through external factors direct my living into self compromise by myself creating a judgment that I am less then others, when I realize, see, and understand that the external does not define me nor does it create who I am, I do this within my own living and what I do in these moments.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe my mind when I see it within me saying that I am being judged as inferior and being seen as not worth being within in terms of being part of a team.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to project my own fears and judgments against myself onto the external world in where I can abdicate responsibility to change and blame it on this man who I interpreted as judging me in this way.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to abdicate responsibility to my own judgments and my own thoughts and blame it on external factors based on the idea that I am not strong enough to change and that I will fail.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to create a belief of myself that I am not strong enough to face my mind within my judgments of myself and that I will fail at attempts to change myself in my living.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to judge and inferiorize myself with others and make my living be in accordance with what my mind is doing within each moment instead of stopping my mind in the moment, and directing myself within common sense and self honesty.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to compare myself to others within the event and see myself as doing not as well as others, and believing this is showing that I am not as good as others.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to create these thoughts within myself that I am not as good as others based on a in the moment judgment of myself not taking into consideration the context of the situation and that each one is in their own process walking themselves into stability, and this walk is different for all.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to compromise the rest of that day’s event where I was in my mind judging myself and projecting anger and blame to this man, when within myself I could have taken responsibility, changed myself in the moment, and walked the tools that were necessary in self honesty to be change my living to be best for me and best for all.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to exist in the mind in that day’s event and miss opportunities to move myself here in the moment into real time self change.

When and as I see I am going into my backchat and judging myself about who I am in that moment in a specific situation, I stop and breath, and realize that these judgments and backchat thoughts will come out as projections and blame in my physical reality, and so compromise my living and who I can be with others to be less then my utmost potential.

So I commit myself to in the moment I see I am going into backchat thoughts of judgment towards myself or others, I stop and change in the moment to be physical and write on the point as soon as I am able to to direct the point and ground it into change for myself.

I commit myself to stop the judgments of myself in my mind before a big event and correct myself into grounding myself through breathing and self forgiveness and self correction.

I commit myself to stop comparing myself with others in the moment and find where I can learn from others.

I commit myself to breath and move myself in the moment in a way that pushes my self expression here as I breath with no thoughts.

I commit to stop my thoughts and judgments, and accept all as myself and walk what is best for all.

I will continue on with my realizations and writing on this work event in my next blog, thanks for reading.