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Wednesday, March 18, 2015

Self Correction and Redefining Patience in the Context of Self Interest – Day 451

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Living the Word Patience - Part 1
Redefining Patience – Impatience: Thought Dimension - Day 450

Here walking the correction process to my last blog of writing on becoming impatience with another in my world and causing consequential outflows of abuse toward my environment instead of standing as a support to get to solutions that are best for all. Thanks for reading.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to follow the thought that ‘she is so spoiled’ and so move within this starting point as the energy that came up as anger in relation to this thought and grab the money from her causing her to react even more.

When and as I see I am moving within an energy reaction and about to physically create consequence with another that is not beneficial, I stop and breath, and realize that the consequences that I will create in reaction is not something I want to continue creating as I realize that this causes suffering onto others and so will cause suffering onto myself.

I commit myself to when I see I am going into an emotional reaction toward another I commit myself let it go and find the point where I can take responsibility and find a solution that will suit everyone.

I commit myself to prevent any abuse I may cause by standing within this commitment and application of stopping my reactions before they move into physical consequences through breathing and doing self forgiveness.

I commit myself to not move myself if I am reacting in any way that is physical as I see, realize, and understand this is deliberate and unacceptable as it cause harm in all it’s outflows.

I commit myself to breath in these moments and move myself physically to a solution oriented action.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to go into the experience of impatience when I justified the thought of ‘she is so spoiled’ and then allowed the anger to overtake me so I could release it again onto my niece based on a blame that she was the cause of it because she ‘is spoiled’.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to move into a point of impatience when I see a thought come up where I can use it to blame another for the experience I am having to not then have to face myself in this moment and stop myself from going into this energy release of justification and blame as the impatient experience came over me and I used it to release my built up frustration that I hadn’t directed onto my niece.

I commit myself to let go of the desire to be right or be heard, and so I commit myself to use patience in the manner of preventing outcomes and outflows that are not supportive for life here.

I commit myself to stand within these moments of energy movements within applying patience where I stand in another shoes and see where I can support to move the point to a solution.

I commit myself to move into a point of stability with my environment by applying patience within what I am doing and so slowing myself down to see more direct what is happening and so can give more of myself to stand as a solution that I see in common sense.

I commit myself to walk the process of standing within a point of self leadership where I practice patience and stand as this point regardless of what my external world is showing me.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to blame my niece for my own abdication of stopping my own mind as thoughts and energies and create consequence and abuse to her and her world.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to blame another for what I was doing myself in that moment of not hearing her out and coming to an agreement as a stable point.

I commit myself to stop blaming others in my world and find where it is that I had reacted through identifying the trigger points and so I commit to walk the process of correction within these moments to take self responsibility and move myself to change in these moments so I am stable and able to direct within an outcome that is best for all.

I commit myself to stop the point of blame onto others and find the fears and desires I am participating within in not actually facing myself and finding where I need to change and correct myself.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to follow my mind as thoughts instead of who and how I am being in physical reality toward others.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to abuse others in this world instead of stopping the abuse within myself by taking responsibility for my actions and so stopping the consequential outflow I created through following thoughts and acting in reaction based on listening to this thought.

I commit myself to find solutions with others within what can be done practically based on principles of what is best for all.

I commit myself to cross-reference and question my stand within physical reality so I can ensure I am walking what is best for all in self honesty through self introspection rather then directly moving with what is ‘normal’ as the mind pulses as energy and thinking.

I commit myself to walk the process of correction through patiences with myself in allowing myself to walk a process of correction and where and how I am able to move to a more stable point within myself of applying the tools of writing and correction in my living.

Redefining patience in this context is to find where and how it is that I am reacting and creating an outflow of self interest rather then breathing, becoming my own self directive point of understanding and movement to correction through applying the point of slowing down, becoming aware of my breathing, and self investigating who I am being to then take responsibility for myself and move into solution oriented outflows that will support all as well as myself to be here and be part of life.

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Saturday, February 28, 2015

Redefining Patience – Impatience: Thought Dimension - Day 450

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Living the Word Patience - Part 1

This past week I was with my family on vacation, there was children there as well as preteen girls where I found impatient came up quite often. I will use these memories to walk some self forgiveness on the dimensions of impatience I am still acting in. This for the living correction process I will be walking to live the redefined word of Patience I started this series off with, please see the link for this blog.

One memory in particular that comes up is when my niece was holding money and wouldn’t give it to my mom, we needed it quick because of a toll we were approaching. My niece was frustrated because she wanted to go to the store and get goodies, and we were not going to take her. Within this moment, I had a backchat thought of ‘this kid is so spoiled’ (she was having a temper tantrum), I reached back and grabbed the money out of her hand and yelled at her. She then reacted to me by yelling, so it was not a successful interaction and I did not take responsibility for myself as the adult and allowed myself to react in anger and cause abuse.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to follow the thought that ‘she is so spoiled’ and so move within this starting point as the energy that came up as anger in relation to this thought and grab the money from her causing her to react even more.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to go into the experience of impatience when I justified the thought of ‘she is so spoiled’ and then allowed the anger to overtake me so I could release it again onto my niece based on a blame that she was the cause of it because she ‘is spoiled’.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to move into a point of impatience when I see a thought come up where I can use it to blame another for the experience I am having to not then have to face myself in this moment and stop myself from going into this energy release of justification and blame as the impatient experience came over me and I used it to release my built up frustration that I hadn’t directed onto my niece.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to blame my niece for my own abdication of stopping my own mind as thoughts and energies and create consequence and abuse to her and her world.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to blame another for what I was doing myself in that moment of not hearing her out and coming to an agreement as a stable point.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to follow my mind as thoughts instead of who and how I am being in physical reality toward others.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to abuse others in this world instead of stopping the abuse within myself by taking responsibility for my actions and so stopping the consequential outflow I created through following thoughts and acting in reaction based on listening to this thought.

Self correction to follow in the next blog, thanks.

Tuesday, February 24, 2015

Living the Word Patience - Part 1 - Day 449

Redefinition of the word Patience:

Pa- t - essence

Pay attention to essences –

What is the definition of essences?
A property or group of properties of something without which it would not exist or be what it is.

So the essences of ourselves that makes us exist is life, we are life on an intrinsic level and exist because we have been given through our physical bodies the existence of who we are now as human beings able to live on this earth. So this essence that has come up within my re-definition of the word patience is what I would refer to as the essence of who each one is as life. Without this essence of life, then we would not exist and we would not be here living. No life is thus not here, which then is not existing.

So within patience I for myself see within not adhering to this action it is based on myself rushing in energy, moving within an energy on a level where I miss life and separate myself from all the life that is here in my environment. Within separating myself from this essence that is here as the life essence that exist within all, I can easily go into reaction, following thoughts, getting overtaken by emotions as energies, not being aware of my breath, and creating consequences that have an effect that is harmful and creates abuse. This is so because as was describe in the word redefinition I posted, I am not giving attention to the other as life equal to myself, but becoming emotional and my behavior in reaction is not withstanding, but fleeting and inconsistent when I access impatience and deliberate abuse is the result which is not of life and not being aware of the essence of myself or another as life. Also, what is missed as the consequence of giving into the experience of impatience is the essence of creating with others, moving with others that in ways will benefit and support both, and miscommunication, conflict, and deadlocks are usually the outcomes. This expression no one can deny is what life is about, to express oneself in ways that supports one’s creativity and living with others in mutual beneficial ways through creation. Life sustains life and within expression as patience’s, when one pay’s attention to the essence of what is here as life, creation is made and what is life but creation and who we are in our utmost potential is creators.

I always find when I push myself and stand within patience’s within these moments of energy rushes that come up of wanting to become impatient with another, the outcome is so much more beneficial. This is so because mutual understanding is able to be reached through moving slower within oneself and grounding oneself into reality where what is happening directly is more easily accessed. This moving slower takes a process of stopping oneself in the moment of energy rushes, and using breath and commitment statements made to ground oneself into a focus of who one is within these moments as an example of life. So redefining the word patience as I did will more support me with a reminder of who I am within these moments of wanting to become impatience and using the tools discussed above to ground myself and so recognize myself again within the other and see what is here which is life.

Conflict is not enjoyable and gets old really fast, it also creates lots of consequence within the mind of self as well as others and physical consequences can occur to the body and the body of others if impatience’s is continued to be participated in, as this accumulates and evolves within oneself and one's world that results in anger, hatred, and then can turn into violence. So this is not to be judged if one has or is participating in such instances, though one should heed these words and start pushing ourselves into living as patience because I am amazed at how much I am overcome by the desire to live out my impatience experience onto others in my life, and equally amazed at the results when I stand in these moments and live the word patiences. Now that I have re-defined this word as paying attention to the essence of life in others, I will more and more stop, take a breath, and live this redefinition into my world because it is clear. This creating a more sustainable self and sustainable environment for all life which is the essence of what the word Patience exist as.

Thursday, June 27, 2013

Cultural Dissection - TV, Internet, Movies - Our Poisonous Past Time? - Day 320

One of the most common point of cultural influence we all have in common today is television watching, almost all of the households in America own at least one tv. By the age of 18, these young adults will have watched over 16,000 tv commercials. In an average week for a child, they will have watched over 1,480 minutes of tv, that is over 24 hours of stationary tv viewing. (Source: http://www.statisticbrain.com/television-watching-statistics/) This shows you that tv watching is a big part of in this case the American lifestyle, and within the statistics above show the amount of influence the tv programs has on especially our children. The tv programs for instances are an indirect teacher within how we learn and understand our world around us through what we view on tv. In children's cases, they are learning with no prior reference or context to what they are viewing in many cases, and thus are more easily susceptible to misinformation of easily viewed mature content. Obviously, the child is looking and observing the other humans especially adults in how to live, how to behave, how to do things, ect, so we have a responsibility of course within this to make sure that what is being viewed and thus learned by youngsters is something worthwhile and what will support them to be the best they can be.

Unfortunately though, the majority of the tv, Internet, and movies have had quite the opposite influence on the young, we have created through these mediums more competition within our kids and our world, more aggression, and more dysfunctional self image. And through repetitive messaging as is constant on the television ads for instance, we program into ourselves someone who are in need, unfulfilled, and flawed. So it’s a constant threat of survival being perpetuated through the media avenues and the only means of survival is through buying it, you will not be anything unless you can buy it. And who are the one’s that profit exponentially off this mania of the human consuming desire for fulfillment? The corporations of course, creating massive gaps between the rich and the poor and the poor is perpetuating the rich due the effectiveness of the media and manipulating the psyche of the human to believe we need things to be happy and fulfilled within ourselves.

Problem:

More and more children are being influenced by media outlets such as tv, video games, video pads, and computers as they are readily available and affordable for so many, Also, there is a paranoia of the parent of letting your child go outside with the conditions of this world being so consequential and dangerous these days, so they put them in front of the tv. Children are more and more using tv to entertain themselves, and what is it that they are viewing on the tv screens and Internet access and movies is nothing short of dumb down garbage, the crude sex, extreme violence, and pointless shows are not suited in a manner of supporting children to the utmost, but where children learned to be out of control and disregard others through constant views of competition and survival. Not to mention the Internet, where a child can find themselves in sites that are not even suitable for adults eyes in a very quick and easy manner.

I am looking at my own experience, as I was introduced to the ‘world’ so to speak through the tv, the sex scenes, the murders, drugs and alcohol, degradation of human life within words and actions, and many other extreme things on a constant and consistent basis on the television programming. The sex and drugs and alcohol viewing was something that when I realized what it was all about through finally viewing enough tv and movies and speaking to other kids, I had to try it because I had seen it so much and it imprinted within me with emotions and feelings very intensely, that it was now an experience I must do to live it and see what it is like for real. This the effect the tv programming has on the person viewing it as you can even see within the words of how we call it ‘tv’ ‘program’, it is their in the words, and it’s not that the programming in itself is bad, but it is what is being programmed within the viewer and if they are at will to it or it is in a controlling and manipulative way through the content of what they are showing as submissive or subconsciously integrated such as subliminal messaging in advertisement.

-As children take in multitudes of commercials, they learn to place worth in material possessions. As they grow, this materialism can contribute to discontentment, unhappy relationships and drug or alcohol abuse.

-In 2000, $2 billion was spent on advertising to children in America. By 2008, that figure had increased to $15 billion.

-Huston and colleagues have estimated that the average 18-year-old will have viewed 200,000 acts of violence on television (Huston, A.C., Donnerstein, E., Fairchild, H. et al. Big World, Small Screen: The Role of Television in American Society. Lincoln, NE: University of Nebraska Press, 1992.)
(Source: http://www.focusonthefamily.com/parenting/protecting_your_family/advertising-and-kids/statistics.aspx)

So tv and movies and internet allow too much access with no sense of responsibility to the viewer especially within age appropriate ranges without proper context and understanding, and also the point of value within what is being viewed is of a point of what is best, no, there is no sense of value to what we put on screens, it’s whatever will make money will be put on, and this has evolved to disturbing and ridiculous heights such as best selling shows like ‘keeping up with the kardashins’, ’16 and pregnant’, ‘swamppeople’, ‘jackass’, and many others. There are some shows that have quality within them, but still have these same elements of the limitation of our abilities within the human capacity that we can be at our best with direct awareness of what is going on through understanding and teaching these life skills through this medium as the tv or movies, but it does not happen. There shows that are irrelevant and based on human consumption and dysfunction in one way or another in most all the shows I have seen as of yet with degrading women for sex, obsession for sex, alcohol or drug abuse, and/or devolved behavior towards the capacity that we can be for instance. I suppose this is the mind of the human externally being viewed, so can be a gift to show us what needs changing, taken responsibility for, and corrected to live in the best way we as life can live if we dare.

And another huge industry is porn on the internet, where with a click of the mouse a 10 year old boy can view a guy degrading a women through sex in the most horrendous and abusive ways. The porn industry today being more lucrative then the Hollywood movie industry, and thus is evolved to be more raunchy and grotesque as this is what sells. You can put yourself in the shoes of the child viewing this and see what influence this has on them, how it creates a distorted and warped view of sexual intimacy with another, and the extremely degrading of human as objects rather then the physical live beings they are. And of course it has a massive impact on children and how they view themselves and their relationships with others without any proper education or understanding of what and why these things are being done in these ways, but none the less it is seen over and over again as it easily becomes an addiction, and is imprinted and will form and build the child’s character into eventually an adult, and unfortunately usually a dysfunctional one at that.

Here are some statistics on the influence of children and access to porn on the internet:

· 9 out of 10 children aged between the ages of 8 and 16 have viewed pornography on the Internet, in most cases unintentionally (London School of Economics January 2002).

· Average age of first Internet exposure to pornography: 11 years old (Internet Filter Review).

· Largest consumer of Internet pornography: 12 - 17 year-old age group (various sources, as of 2007).

· Adult industry says traffic is 20-30% children (NRC Report 2002, 3.3).

· Youth with significant exposure to sexuality in the media were shown to be significantly more likely to have had intercourse at ages 14 to 16 (Report in Pediatrics, April, 2006).

· "Never before in the history of telecommunications media in the United States has so much indecent (and obscene) material been so easily accessible by so many minors in so many American homes with so few restrictions."
- U.S. Department of Justice, Post Hearing Memorandum of Points and Authorities, at l, ACLU v. Reno, 929 F. Supp. 824 (1996).

(Source: http://www.safefamilies.org/sfStats.php)

So there is no real action by the populous of this world to make sure that what is being viewed and learned through a child’s very impressionable primitive years is something of value and will support the child to be the best they can be as an adult. Education is imperative to be implemented especially in the child’s first seven years of their life where they are naturally integrating and learning mostly everything they come into contact with. So it starts at the family level, the parents, and what you will put in front of the child, will it be of value to them and there learning or will it be a point of using these media mediums to have time to yourself and allow the tube to program your child to be ineffective within the potential they can be.

Within this as well, we as a society have a responsibility to create the avenues and the change necessary to make sure that what is being viewed on the tv or internet or in a movie is something anyone can watch and is worthwhile in producing an effective human being, I mean, why do we waste time, money, and especially human potential with worthless things on something so influential as the media outlets we have in this world, when it could be used to educate and expand ourselves through these mediums to be what is best for all. Another point we have to address is our profit driven way of life, and us allowing and accepting it to control and dictate who we are going to be in limitation and inequality, this will take a system change and you can investigate equal money system, the equal life foundation, and the interim solution as the basic income grant for more on this.

Solution:

The solution to this problem of over stimulation of our children with ineffective tv and internet viewing is to first create a human being from childhood with the ability to take responsibility for themselves and correct themselves to care for others as they would like to be cared for as well. So through a process of writing in self honesty, which is found to be most effective, one can change the points where you see you are not effective within doing what is best. You can use this platform to find where you need changing and correction, and write out the self forgiveness to forgive yourself for the faults and then script the correction of yourself to change in your living. So we can become living examples for the children to come and in essence everyone we meet, to start on the path of creating a world where we are responsible and live from a point of caring for others and living to our full capacity within in equality and what is best for all. Investigate Desteni I Process Lite to get started.

From a more global perspective, we as our media and what we deem as entertainment, consumer products, and culture are to change drastically once life start to equalize itself and realize that we are already here and do not need to compete or be fulfilled. The production of things will be based on expression and creativity uninhibited by profit within an integrity of self because we have started on the path of self correction and thus the correction of our world, so the quality of our external living will be that of equal value to the quality of who we are within our internal living, descent, responsible, honorable, and self honest in an equal respect for all the life that live here.

Also, this will clean up all areas culture such as the entertainment and media outlets to be able to be viewed by all and understood by all to the benefit of them and their life, and to expand within what is viewed through creativity and common sense. Understand, it’s not that who we are in this world is bad or wrong, it’s just a point or a shift from dysfunctional living to functional living because the way it is now as dysfunction abuses people, life, and cause consequential outflows that are very serious and severe such as with porn and child sex slavery, rape, or molestation. Sex is a human function and part of the physical body processes, it’s a point of realizing this for oneself, understanding the functionality of it and how to live sexual expression in a way that supports the human as a physical being, and so stopping the mind from taking over and controlling the human completely in obsession and addiction, learning self control through self direction and discipline.

Reward:

The reward for correcting and purifying ourselves to a life of integrity lived within all areas of our life as media, culture, education, internet, social living, and thus taught to the generations to come will create a world of potential we can not imagine at this time. Where our children and ourselves are flourishing within who we are as creative beings and having the support and assistance within everything we encounter in our world and reality here and available for all’s use. Creating a support system within our whole living system here that is best for all and equal within all will create an absolute enjoyable place of paradise where no more fear or paranoia have to exist of survival or unfulfillment, and life can breath a big sigh of relief because we are alive, and can push life’s ability to new heights that we have as of yet not been able to explore, and these heights I am ready to explore, would you not agree?