Porn and Sex – Why do we allow the degradation of Man? – Day 331

Porn and the human are a toxic mix because it creates a human who runs on illusion and desire to fulfill something that is not in fact real, it's only created in one's mind and lived out through sex or masturbation. And through porn on the whole it is used to sell products that degrades the human being usually through women being seen as an object to be used as a means to an end, and this only to make money no matter the abuse caused. Have we as a society ever considered the impact that porn has on our community, on our children’s minds, on our functionality with the opposite sex within a relationship set up, I would say no we have not. We don’t really ever consider what we are doing within watching these videos, and how it will impact within people as their states of being when we allow porn to be so easily accessible and protected through all avenues of media as if it is a normal way of behavior. But it is not, the porn culture and saturation of it in our society has created the outflows of abuse as sex slavery, child sex slaves, child molestation, rape, women objectification, and physical abuse to be rampant due to the raunchy nature of these sex scenes depicted in porn on the regular, many can’t get enough so they seek criminal ways to fulfill this desire for more.

Some Research on Porn Viewing and Dysfunctional Societal Behavior:

-Psychologist Edward Donnerstein (University of Wisconsin) found that brief exposure to violent forms of pornography can lead to anti-social attitudes and behavior. Male viewers tend to be more aggressive towards women, less responsive to pain and suffering of rape victims, and more willing to accept various myths about rape.

-Dr. Dolf Zimmerman and Dr. Jennings Bryant showed that continued exposure to pornography had serious adverse effects on beliefs about sexuality in general and on attitudes toward women in particular. They also found that pornography desensitizes people to rape as a criminal offense.

-These researchers also found that massive exposure to pornography encourages a desire for increasingly deviant materials which involve violence, like sadomasochism and rape.

-Feminist author Diana Russell notes in her book Rape and Marriage the correlation between deviant behavior (including abuse) and pornography. She also found that pornography leads men and women to experience conflict, suffering, and sexual dissatisfaction.

-Researcher Victor Cline (University of Utah) has documented in his research how men become addicted to pornographic materials, begin to desire more explicit or deviant material, and end up acting out what they have seen.

-According to Charles Keating of Citizens for Decency Through Law, research reveals that 77 percent of child molesters of boys and 87 percent of child molesters of girls admitted imitating the sexual behavior they had seen modeled in pornography.

-Sociologists Murray Straus and Larry Baron (University of New Hampshire) found that rape rates are highest in states which have high sales of sex magazines and lax enforcement of pornography laws.

-Michigan state police detective Darrell Pope found that of the 38,000 sexual assault cases in Michigan (1956-1979), in 41 percent of the cases pornographic material was viewed just prior to or during the crime. This agrees with research done by psychotherapist David Scott who found that “half the rapists studied used pornography to arouse themselves immediately prior to seeking out a victim.”

-The Final Report of the 1986 Attorney General’s Commission on Pornography lists a full chapter of testimony (197-223) from victims whose assailants had previously viewed pornographic materials. The adverse effects range from physical harm (rape, torture, murder, sexually transmitted disease) to psychological harm (suicidal thoughts, fear, shame, nightmares)

Source: http://www.forerunner.com/forerunner/X0388_Effects_of_Pornograp.html

Also recommended interview to watch on the impact of porn:

Serial Killer Ted Bundy: Final Interview

Growing up I realized the seduction of porn as it was very specifically placed within movies and tv shows to get the curiosity growing, and within this the curiosity does grow, and it was very easily satisfied with easy access to porn through internet or tv stations, especially now a days where internet access is everywhere. Thankfully, I never took it to an addiction level, but it is a point one will eventually face in this reality and have to decide who one is going to be and what one is going to be controlled by self will or desire based on the saturation of perverse sexual images seen every where. Internet porn is one of the easiest and unprotected ways of viewing for all ages of human beings, children are especially vulnerable due to not really understanding what one is viewing and clicking away making it a virtual ticking time bomb to get to images that are not meant for anyone eyes never mind children.

And what of the women in these videos who are being abused outright, being forced to have multiple things happening to them at once with many guys, and all sorts of disgusting things that sell because the mind easily creates the desire for more and more outlandish images to continue the high that is created when the porn images are viewed, and this sells so this is what is made. So it’s an addiction for many as it’s easy to get and it’s an easy reward, but is this really a reward, a momentary release of orgasm, where through the very participation of this one gets addicted to more and more of this feeling with the consequences being physical abuse, aggression, rape, kidnapping, and torture to name a few that go on every day for people in this world and it is driven within this type of media outlet, the porn industry, which is more lucrative then Hollywood productions.

Have we ever considered that there is more to sex then just watching porn and getting off, and then going to one’s relationship and trying to live out these scenes that in reality will not actually work and can’t work cause they aren’t in fact real. We have been dumbed down to believe all we are are these out of control sex crazed humans with no self control.  When the potential within us to have real physical sex as an expression of ourselves in reality one and equal with the physical exploring together with one’s partner is something that does in fact exist, but only through the letting go of these fantasy and porn induced desires and addictions completely to be able to move as self within each breath with no mind interference. It takes a process of writing, and practicing with one’s partner to get to a level of self control, but the rewards are worthwhile as it’s real not just based on energy through the mind as pictures and images.

There is a series I have listened to that explains the mind sex and the physical sex differences quite starkly and completely, called What is Sex?, which has changed my outlook on what’s possible based on hearing things that I have never considered before about sex as a physical expression and the understanding within what it actually is creating on a mind level. There is a difference to be understood. This series explores the topics of moving from just feelings and an energy release as a momentary orgasm to real physical connection with another and an exploration of yourself to find out who one really is within one’s own physical body and what it really means to touch another as self here in equality in the physical reality, this leading to the physical expression of the body as self as sex. It’s something else when one is in an agreement with another to walk as a support for each other within this process of letting go of the mind and remaining here in the physical, and the rewards through self is something I have seen the benefit of even just starting out within practicing this way of physical expression with another that has been quite exceptional.

And as a societal integration within this way of physical expression is a balanced human who respects themselves and their partner equally in reaching the ecstasy that can be reached through touch and intimacy through communication of two becoming one for real here in the physical in equality and oneness. Porn is not real sex and is only done in the mind where the energy dies, which as an outflow consequence cause horrific abuse in this world to many many men, women, and children. There is whole industries built on this abuse that is started within participating and viewing pornography to eventually not getting enough from that, so one resort to make their fantasies real disregarding those effected, but only seeking to fulfill one’s desire for release of sexual tension. Suggest we stop limiting ourselves for instant gratification and walk the process to real self expression through discipline and self exploration with another in an agreement into self expression as physical sexual expression.

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Cultural Dissection - TV, Internet, Movies - Our Poisonous Past Time? - Day 320

One of the most common point of cultural influence we all have in common today is television watching, almost all of the households in America own at least one tv.  By the age of 18, these young adults will have watched over 16,000 tv commercials. In an average week for a child, they will have watched over 1,480 minutes of tv, that is over 24 hours of stationary tv viewing. (Source: http://www.statisticbrain.com/television-watching-statistics/) This shows you that tv watching is a big part of in this case the American lifestyle, and within the statistics above show the amount of influence the tv programs has on especially our children. The tv programs for instances are an indirect teacher within how we learn and understand our world around us through what we view on tv. In children's cases, they are learning with no prior reference or context to what they are viewing in many cases, and thus are more easily susceptible to misinformation of easily viewed mature content. Obviously, the child is looking and observing the other humans especially adults in how to live, how to behave, how to do things, ect, so we have a responsibility of course within this to make sure that what is being viewed and thus learned by youngsters is something worthwhile and what will support them to be the best they can be.

Unfortunately though, the majority of the tv, Internet, and movies have had quite the opposite influence on the young, we have created through these mediums more  competition within our kids and our world, more aggression, and more dysfunctional self image. And through repetitive messaging as is constant on the television ads for instance, we program into ourselves someone who are in need, unfulfilled, and flawed. So it’s a constant threat of survival being perpetuated through the media avenues and the only means of survival is through buying it, you will not be anything unless you can buy it. And who are the one’s that profit exponentially off this mania of the human consuming desire for fulfillment? The corporations of course, creating massive gaps between the rich and the poor and the poor is perpetuating the rich due the effectiveness of the media and manipulating the psyche of the human to believe we need things to be happy and fulfilled within ourselves.

Problem:

More and more children are being influenced by media outlets such as tv, video games, video pads, and computers as they are readily available and affordable for so many, Also, there is a paranoia of the parent of letting your child go outside with the conditions of this world being so consequential and dangerous these days, so they put them in front of the tv. Children are more and more using tv to entertain themselves, and what is it that they are viewing on the tv screens and Internet access and movies is nothing short of dumb down garbage, the crude sex, extreme violence, and pointless shows are not suited in a manner of supporting children to the utmost, but where children learned to be out of control and disregard others through constant views of competition and survival. Not to mention the Internet, where a child can find themselves in sites that are not even suitable for adults eyes in a very quick and easy manner.

I am looking at my own experience, as I was introduced to the ‘world’ so to speak through the tv, the sex scenes, the murders, drugs and alcohol, degradation of human life within words and actions, and many other extreme things on a constant and consistent basis on the television programming.  The sex and drugs and alcohol viewing was something that when I realized what it was all about through finally viewing enough tv and movies and speaking to other kids, I had to try it because I had seen it so much and it imprinted within me with emotions and feelings very intensely, that it was now an experience I must do to live it and see what it is like for real. This the effect the tv programming has on the person viewing it as you can even see within the words of how we call it ‘tv’ ‘program’, it is their in the words,  and it’s not that the programming in itself is bad, but it is what is being programmed within the viewer and if they are at will to it or it is in a controlling and manipulative way through the content of what they are showing as submissive or subconsciously integrated such as subliminal messaging in advertisement.

-As children take in multitudes of commercials, they learn to place worth in material possessions. As they grow, this materialism can contribute to discontentment, unhappy relationships and drug or alcohol abuse.

-In 2000, $2 billion was spent on advertising to children in America. By 2008, that figure had increased to $15 billion.

-Huston and colleagues have estimated that the average 18-year-old will have viewed 200,000 acts of violence on television (Huston, A.C., Donnerstein, E., Fairchild, H. et al. Big World, Small Screen: The Role of Television in American Society. Lincoln, NE: University of Nebraska Press, 1992.)
(Source: http://www.focusonthefamily.com/parenting/protecting_your_family/advertising-and-kids/statistics.aspx)

So tv and movies and internet allow too much access with no sense of responsibility to the viewer especially within age appropriate ranges without proper context and understanding, and also the point of value within what is being viewed is of a point of what is best, no, there is no sense of value to what we put on screens, it’s whatever will make money will be put on, and this has evolved to disturbing and ridiculous heights such as best selling shows like ‘keeping up with the kardashins’, ’16 and pregnant’, ‘swamppeople’, ‘jackass’, and many others. There are some shows that have quality within them, but still have these same elements of the limitation of our abilities within the human capacity that we can be at our best with direct awareness of what is going on through understanding and teaching these life skills through this medium as the tv or movies, but it does not happen. There shows that are irrelevant and based on human consumption and dysfunction in one way or another in most all the shows I have seen as of yet with degrading women for sex, obsession for sex, alcohol or drug abuse, and/or devolved behavior towards the capacity that we can be for instance. I suppose this is the mind of the human externally being viewed, so can be a gift to show us what needs changing, taken responsibility for, and corrected to live in the best way we as life can live if we dare.

And another huge industry is porn on the internet, where with a click of the mouse a 10 year old boy can view a guy degrading a women through sex in the most horrendous and abusive ways. The porn industry today being more lucrative then the Hollywood movie industry, and thus is evolved to be more raunchy and grotesque as this is what sells.  You can put yourself in the shoes of the child viewing this and see what influence this has on them, how it creates a distorted and warped view of sexual intimacy with another, and the extremely degrading of human as objects rather then the physical live beings they are. And of course it has a massive impact on children and how they view themselves and their relationships with others without any proper education or understanding of what and why these things are being done in these ways, but none the less it is seen over and over again as it easily becomes an addiction, and is imprinted and will form and build the child’s character into eventually an adult, and unfortunately usually a dysfunctional one at that.

Here are some statistics on the influence of children and access to porn on the internet:

· 9 out of 10 children aged between the ages of 8 and 16 have viewed pornography on the Internet, in most cases unintentionally (London School of Economics January 2002).

· Average age of first Internet exposure to pornography: 11 years old (Internet Filter Review).

· Largest consumer of Internet pornography: 12 - 17 year-old age group (various sources, as of 2007).

· Adult industry says traffic is 20-30% children (NRC Report 2002, 3.3).

· Youth with significant exposure to sexuality in the media were shown to be significantly more likely to have had intercourse at ages 14 to 16 (Report in Pediatrics, April, 2006).

· "Never before in the history of telecommunications media in the United States has so much indecent (and obscene) material been so easily accessible by so many minors in so many American homes with so few restrictions."
- U.S. Department of Justice, Post Hearing Memorandum of Points and Authorities, at l, ACLU v. Reno, 929 F. Supp. 824 (1996).

(Source: http://www.safefamilies.org/sfStats.php)

So there is no real action by the populous of this world to make sure that what is being viewed and learned through a child’s very impressionable primitive years is something of value and will support the child to be the best they can be as an adult. Education is imperative to be implemented especially in the child’s first seven years of their life where they are naturally integrating and learning mostly everything they come into contact with. So it starts at the family level, the parents, and what you will put in front of the child, will it be of value to them and there learning or will it be a point of using these media mediums to have time to yourself and allow the tube to program your child to be ineffective within the potential they can be.

Within this as well, we as a society have a responsibility to create the avenues and the change necessary to make sure that what is being viewed on the tv or internet or in a movie is something anyone can watch and is worthwhile in producing an effective human being, I mean, why do we waste time, money, and especially human potential with worthless things on something so influential as the media outlets we have in this world, when it could be used to educate and expand ourselves through these mediums to be what is best for all. Another point we have to address is our profit driven way of life, and us allowing and accepting it to control and dictate who we are going to be in limitation and inequality, this will take a system change and you can investigate equal money system, the equal life foundation, and the interim solution as the basic income grant for more on this.

Solution:

The solution to this problem of over stimulation of our children with ineffective tv and internet viewing is to first create a human being from childhood with the ability to take responsibility for themselves and correct themselves to care for others as they would like to be cared for as well. So through a process of writing in self honesty, which is found to be most effective, one can change the points where you see you are not effective within doing what is best. You can use this platform to find where you need changing and correction, and write out the self forgiveness to forgive yourself for the faults and then script the correction of yourself to change in your living. So we can become living examples for the children to come and in essence everyone we meet, to start on the path of creating a world where we are responsible and live from a point of caring for others and living to our full capacity within in equality and what is best for all. Investigate Desteni I Process Lite to get started.

From a more global perspective, we as our media and what we deem as entertainment, consumer products, and culture are to change drastically once life start to equalize itself and realize that we are already here and do not need to compete or be fulfilled. The production of things will be based on expression and creativity uninhibited by profit within an integrity of self because we have started on the path of self correction and thus the correction of our world, so the quality of our external living will be that of equal value to the quality of who we are within our internal living, descent, responsible, honorable, and self honest in an equal respect for all the life that live here.

Also, this will clean up all areas culture such as the entertainment and media outlets to be able to be viewed by all and understood by all to the benefit of them and their life, and to expand within what is viewed through creativity and common sense. Understand, it’s not that who we are in this world is bad or wrong, it’s just a point or a shift from dysfunctional living to functional living because the way it is now as dysfunction abuses people, life, and cause consequential outflows that are very serious and severe such as with porn and child sex slavery, rape, or molestation. Sex is a human function and part of the physical body processes, it’s a point of realizing this for oneself, understanding the functionality of it and how to live sexual expression in a way that supports the human as a physical being, and so stopping the mind from taking over and controlling the human completely in obsession and addiction, learning self control through self direction and discipline.

Reward:

The reward for correcting and purifying ourselves to a life of integrity lived within all areas of our life as media, culture, education, internet, social living, and thus taught to the generations to come will create a world of potential we can not imagine at this time. Where our children and ourselves are flourishing within who we are as creative beings and having the support and assistance within everything we encounter in our world and reality here and available for all’s use. Creating a support system within our whole living system here that is best for all and equal within all will create an absolute enjoyable place of paradise where no more fear or paranoia have to exist of survival or unfulfillment, and life can breath a big sigh of relief because we are alive, and can push life’s ability to new heights that we have as of yet not been able to explore, and these heights I am ready to explore, would you not agree?

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